I WANT TO HELP YOU FLY

I want to help you fly,
But not away from me.

I want what's best for you,
But fear what that might be.

There is no paradox
More difficult than this:
That I would die for you,
Yet not give up your kiss.

So do not mind my madness;
Fly bravely, if you must:
I'll watch you, happy in your joy,
And teach my heart to trust.

6 DECEMBER 2006

When I'm not there... do you think of me? When you're sad and something's bothering you... do you wish I was there to help comfort you? When you've had a long hard day... do you smile knowing that soon you'll be seeing me, and everything will seem better, even if it's just for a moment? When you lay down at night... do you look back and cherish the new memories you've made with me? And when you get up in the morning, does everything inside of you smile, knowing that this will be another day that we'll be together? because that's how I think of you...

When I miss you, sometimes I listen to music or look at pictures of you, not to remind me of you but to make me feel as if I'm with you. It makes me forget the distance and capture you.

No matter how far you are, no matter how long I'm gone, you will always be with me. I will see you always as clear as day, for our love knows no boundaries and never will, because you see... our hearts are one, and mine is always home.

Not being able to hold you has got to be the hardest thing I've ever had to do. But I get to look forward to the next time you are in my arms; your smile only inches away from mine getting closer and closer until at last... our smiles meet. Something that beautiful... that's what keeps me going.

Sometimes, no matter how much faith we have, we lose people. But you never forget them. And sometimes, it's those memories that give us the strength to go on.

I've been laying here all night, listening to the rain. Talking to my heart and trying to explain. Why sometimes I catch myself wondering what might have been. Yes I do think about you, every now and then.

In this weird twisted way, I know you miss me liking you, not because I want to believe it's true, but because you'll never find someone that can put up with you like I did; you'll never find someone who will care as much as I did, because no one will waste all there love on someone like you, like I did.

I called because I wanted you to know that despite everything that' happened and all the miles between us right now, I still think about the way it was in the beginning.

This is out last goodbye... it's over, just hear this and then I'll go; you gave me more to live for then you'll ever know.

I don't miss you: I miss the person I thought you were.

I'd be happy to come back to you... except it was you that went away.

I think its time I let you go... and that is hard to do because part of me will be in love with you for the rest of my life.

Good-bye's make you think. They make you realize what you've had and what you've lost, and what you've taken for granted.

Good-bye is only truly painful if you know you'll never say hello again.

Never long for anyone from the past. There is a reason why they never made it to your future.

Goodbyes always hurt whether it's the right thing to do or not.

Distance between two hearts is not an obstacle... rather a beautiful reminder of just how strong true love can be.

Can miles truly separate you...? If you want to be with someone you love, aren't you already there?

You know you love someone when the mere thought of losing them brings you to tears...

HOW TO AVOID MALE STEREOTYPES

There is a line between being a "man" and being a "caveman." Usually guys cross this line and begin acting in abrasive ways. The idea that a man is only a man if he is rude, domineering, or chauvinistic etc., are stereotypes that need to change. Often times guys are forced into this role by pressure to assert themselves as real men. Small changes in your life can effectively make you more attractive to others, give you a better self-image and allow people to view you in a better light as well. If you are ready to break free of some antiquated macho-role and improve your life, this How To is for you.

• Physical Appearance

1. Muscles- You do not need Rambo style muscles to be masculine, no matter what anyone says. Plenty of girls like all kinds of body types, and sometimes "Rambo" is a turn-off.
2. Exercise properly to get or maintain a healthy and fit appearance.
3. Never bulk up for someone else, especially not a current or potential lover. It's your body, you should change it only to make you happy.
4. Weight- Eat properly. Men can eat more healthy foods and it does not take away from your manliness.
5. 
   If you are eating mostly processed foods, eat fresher things instead. Your diet affects all areas of your life, the healthier a man is, the higher his stamina and better his performance mentally and physically. It doesn't hurt in the bedroom, either.

• Grooming

1. Keeping yourself groomed is an every-day thing.
2. This doesn't mean you need to spend long amounts of time in front of a mirror, possibly annoying any feminine people who share your bathroom, but spend some time on it each day.
3. Shower every day, especially after physical exertion where you sweat.
4. Do not wait too long after exertion to shower, or else the salt in your sweat dries onto clothes and your body, leaving both dirty and smelly.
5. Use a good antiperspirant/deodorant.
6. You can spray/splash-on cologne to smell good. However, cologne is no substitute for a good scrote-scrubbin'! Keep 'em clean, boys! Keep 'em clean!
7. Don't put on too much cologne if you do. Things like Axe and Tag are good examples of this. Girls do not find it attractive when they have to hold their breath.
8. Hair need not be model-perfect, just clean and neat looking. The style isn't very important, as long as you are happy with it.
9. Take care of scalp problems like dandruff as soon as you notice a problem.
10. Keep your teeth clean by brushing at least twice a day, and floss at least once. Don't just brush what you see when you smile- Brush all sides of your teeth, paying careful attention to the gum line.
11. Also brush the roof of your mouth and tongue.
12. Keep your clothes clean. Stains can be removed usually by rubbing a little laundry detergent on it before throwing it in with the rest.
13. Don't wear dirty clothes over and over again because they pass "the smell test"- you may not smell them because you are used to the smell, others can and will.
14. Holes, rips, tears, permanent stains, bleach stains, etc- Unless your clothes came that way, throw them out when they become too bad, or only wear around the house. We all have that one tattered, but really comfy shirt or jeans and that's okay, but don't wear it for a night on the town. You don't want to look like a bum.
15. Don't fake it. If something is "in style" but it isn't YOU, don't wear it! Sacrificing your personal taste for popular style is a mistake. You will look like you are trying too hard, or if you pull it off- you will project a false image of yourself. There is nothing wrong with being a jeans and T-shirt guy if you are one. Your clothes should fit your personality, never the other way around.

• Personality/Mannerisms

1. Chivalry and Manners- Don't be afraid to be polite, gracious, giving or kind. These things don't make you less of a man. There are plenty of masculine men who open doors, say thank you and give up their seats for old ladies on the subway. Potential mates will find chivalry surprising- but wholly charming and attractive and all people appreciate politeness and courtesy.
2. Confidence- Show it! People prize confidence highly, and everyone has some, even if you don't feel it all the time. Know your strengths as well as your weaknesses. Be proud of your strengths and in knowing that your weaknesses do not detract from your self worth. Show your self-assuredness in the way you walk, with good posture. Keep your head up and your eyes forward looking ahead, or making eye contact, instead of at the ground, or looking down and talking to someones nose(or worse).
3. Ego- Don't overdo it. Confidence is a very good thing. But when your self-worth gets out of hand, it can turn into cockiness and that is not good. Keep a balance grounded. Don't show off too much or seem over-confidant. People can tell the difference. It makes you look like a jerk, and nobody likes a jerk.
4. Emotions- The only man who should ever be emotionless- is a statue of one. All emotions are perfectly fine and normal to have and display. Crying, being sad, hurt or happy often does not make you feminine. The key is timing and compatibility, not the emotions themselves. It is perfectly acceptable to cry etc, around a longer-term lover. Usually, if you are open about your feelings with someone you care about, they will do the same. That leads to a deeper and more meaningful relationship. But don't turn into an overly-emotional fruitcake.
5. Be Yourself- Be who you really are inside. Things you believe, your morals, feelings and interests should never change for anyone but you. It will do you no good to meet and deal with other people behind pretenses. If you can't be 100% you 100% of the time, that's okay [in fact, it's normal]. But when appropriate, express yourself, talk about things you enjoy. You can connect more genuinely with people by being you, and they will like you for who you really are- consequently you will be able to do more things you enjoy with like-minded people.

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• Tips

1. You don't have to have a "perfect" body. If your personality is bangin', and you are _healthy_ then you will attract people who like you for you- and that is better than attracting someone for bulging biceps that take constant upkeep- that you didn't really want in the first place.
2. You can eat better without changing too much. Most fast food places offer healthier choices and although they aren't the best- a McSalad beats a greasy burger. Unless you are going for major weight loss [40lbs or more], you can still drink beer and soda and enjoy a good cookout. Just lessen the amount or frequency of these not-so-good-for-yous, increase your activity and you'll be fine.
3. If you are overweight by a larger amount [40lbs or more], talk to a health professional or dietitian and determine what diet/exercise ratio would work best for your personal body chemistry and lifestyle rather than taking wonder-drugs or Seen-On-TV diet plans. You can go it alone, but I suggest staying away from most drugs and advertised diet plans since they usually do more harm than good. Lots of research online in advance can pay off later in practice.
4. Mineral crystal type a-p/deodorants work well and last a long time. You can find it in most grocery and Wal-Mart type stores- it runs high priced [$7-$10] for a-p/deodorant, but is a better deal in the long run as it does not run out for a year.
5. There are many whitening products out there for your teeth, ask a dentist which is right for you. Don't do many whitening regiments at one time- the chemicals involved can actually wear away the enamel of your teeth, making them more susceptible to pain and problems.
6. Try to wash your clothes soon after working out, or sweating hard so they don't stain. Or if that's not realistic for you, wear an undershirt to prevent getting those unattractive white sweat-stains. If you work out regularly, get a shirt specifically for that so it doesn't matter if it gets sweat stained.
7. Sometimes, earlier in relationships, some emotions may be a little overkill- You wouldn't want your date to pour out their life-sob-story over the linguine on the first day you meet, would you? Share your deeper emotions and feelings once you feel truly comfortable with the person.
8. It's not generally appropriate to talk about kinky porn at the office... But in the bedroom, you might find your interests are met with full enthusiasm- and you will be glad you were so honest... Also, it is much less stress to only have to remember things you are truly interested in. Pretending takes a lot of effort- and it's never worth it.

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• Warnings

1. If you want to gain muscle- stay away from steroids, whatever you do. Nothing good comes of them. Your muscles can explode [almost literally], it causes negative emotional and personality changes, and does nothing but bad to your sex life. Do it yourself- you'll be safer, healthier, and more proud that way.
2. Risk the temptation to use these new found mannerisms for evil... If you are a jerk who only wants to sleep with someone or get their money- there are plenty of people who are looking for that just like you. Don't fake a good personality just to get what you want from unsuspecting good people.. Not that it's harmful to -you- [your Karma maybe..] but it makes you a bad person and who wants to be a bad person, really? Promiscuity can however lead to the spread of lots of icky and very avoidable STD's. Wouldn't you rather spend your energy actually becoming a better person- rather than pretending to be one?

HOW TO BE CONFIDENT

We are all human and have flaws. Even if your physical appearance, unique personality, or social skills aren't what you wish they were, that doesn't have to stop you from being confident. You are beautiful inside and out so you should love yourself unconditionally. Here's how to believe in yourself.

• Steps

1. Make a list of special talents you have, or things you do that are good; morally or otherwise. Focusing on your attributes helps distract you from those parts of yourself that you think are flawed. It doesn't have to be a specific skill or activity either; it can be an approach or an attitude that you champion through life. Do you always stay calm, cool and collected, even in hurried situations? Are you very patient with people? Do you always see the humorous side of things? Are you always there for your friends?
2. Find your passion. Whether it's baton twirling, martial arts, classic cars, musician, or basket weaving, you will feel confident pursuing that endeavor by recognizing what you enjoy doing the most. More importantly, you'll be enjoying your progress.
3. Choose a role model, whether someone close to you, or someone famous. Think of the qualities that the role model displays, whether physical, emotional, moral, and/or spiritual. Work towards acquiring those.
4. Don't think about yourself too much. Try not to focus negatively on how you come across or how others may perceive you. Instead, focus more on making other people happy, and that will build your confidence as other people start enjoying your company.
5. Accept compliments gracefully. Don't roll your eyes and say, "Yeah, right," or shrug it off. Take it to heart and respond positively ("Thank you" and a smile works well).
6. Know that you have important things to say and do. When you feel strongly about something, speak loudly and clearly and make eye contact with people. Be yourself.
7. Take care of yourself. Eat a healthy diet. Don't abuse your body, don't overload it, and don't deny it any of the things it needs. At the same time, don't obsess. Buying all the moisturizers, creams and conditioners will not bring you closer to who you want to be. Those things are only band-aids and make up. Confidence comes from within. Take the time to reflect on your life and do some emotional maintenance. In order to be confident, you must and i say MUST value yourself and understand that your well-being is important.
8. Work out. Getting enough exercise can boost your confidence amazingly. Not only will it give you more energy throughout the day, but being in good physical shape will make you feel more "worthy" you could say, to talk to others be yourself.
9. Stick up for yourself. If people put you down (and not in a good-natured, joking way), then let them know that their opinion of you is not held by everyone--most of all yourself. This may, at first, be hard to do. But once you stick up for yourself a few times, your confidence builds and you get more adept at it.
10. Celebrate your individuality. If you know you've got something special or different, then embrace it; don't hide it! That's diversity! You may wish that you were taller, or shorter, skinnier, stronger, whatever the case may be. But you need to realize that, if you were like everyone else, then you wouldn't be who you are. "What am I?" you ask; the answer's easy: You're a unique individual who is capable of growing and learning.
11. Take action. It is surprising how powerful the simple step of taking an action can be. And the action you take need not be something extravagant or grand. It could be something as simple as tackling a task that you have been procrastinating, such as writing a letter or tidying up that corner of the garage that has been out of control for the last several months. It could also be something as interesting as taking a class in yoga, art, interior design, anything that interests you that you haven't done yet. Whether large or small, action brings with it exhilaration, enthusiasm, and the confidence that other things can be done as well.
12. You'll need to work on your posture. Don't slouch or slump your shoulders, nothing says "I lack confidence" more than a person who appears like they're trying to hide from the world. Make sure that your back is straight, your shoulders are square, and your chest is puffed out slightly (but stay loose, otherwise you'll appear stiff and uptight). Keep your chin up and your eyes forward rather than looking at the ground.
13. Make a conscious effort to smile often. A smile makes you appear warm, honest, friendly, and confident. You can also just relax your facial muscles entirely, which will make you appear calm and relaxed. Observe yourself in a mirror to make sure that you don't have a tense or nervous facial expression, because if you do others will believe you to be sad, angry, or uncomfortable.
14. When engaging in conversation with others, make eye contact. Gaze into the other person's eyes as you talk to make yourself seem interested, calm, and confident. Avoiding eye contact makes you appear shy and submissive, while directly staring for too long may make you appear angry or scared. So the best advice is to gaze into a person's eyes as you converse with them while occasionally shifting your gaze or looking around.
15. Shaking hands can increase your confidence . When it comes to gesturing with your hands, keeping your hands far apart and your palms open makes you appear open and honest. Pointing with your fingers and bringing your hands closer together can draw emphasis to what you are saying. Don't overuse hand gestures or you'll look nervous and unstable. Avoid wringing your hands or touching your sleeves, as these things can make you appear nervous, tense, or even dishonest. *If you're a man, have a firm handshake when shaking another man's hand. If you're shaking a woman's hand, don't grasp her hand any harder than she grasps yours.
16. Put a little strut or swagger into your walk. Move like you have a purpose, and keep your knees slightly bent to avoid appearing stiff and rigid.
17. Act confident, even if you don't truly feel it. After a while, it will come naturally, and you will feel confident in yourself! Also, learn to not care what other's think of you. If you let what people say to you bring you down, you will never be happy. Only care about how you feel about yourself, and don't always take what people say at face value, because they may be jealous of you and are intending to put you down. Don't let them stop your progress, but stand up for yourself while acting calmly!

• Tips

1. Don't compare yourself with other people. It is a wasteful pursuit, and you could be doing something better with your time and energy. Know what you, personally, want and expect from yourself, and focus on attaining those things. The things that you want and expect from yourself don't have anything to do with how you measure up to others.
2. Consider attending leadership classes. Learn to take control of things. If you are in school, then consider running for a social position, such as a president of a club. The ability to lead others and respond to others' behavior under your leadership will help to bring you self confidence.
3. Listen to your inner monologue—your inner voice. In situations where you believe you lack confidence, realize that your inner voice is telling you negative things. You need to retrain that inner voice to be positive in those situations. If you need help, find someone who can help you do that.
4. Speak positively at all times. When you hear yourself saying something negative about yourself, instantly replace it with a positive comment.
5. You have to reprogram your subconscious by repeatedly telling it how confident you are; it will believe you in time.
6. Walk 20% faster than your normal pace, stand and walk with your spine straight and hold your chin high. This physical posture will force you to think positive and be confident.
7. Only think good things about yourself, make sure you only focus on the positive things about yourself. It's really important that you don't let other people say things to you to get you down, remember everyone is different and just be happy to be you, everyone is beautiful

• Warnings

1. Don't put yourself down. Everyone is different and has a valuable contribution to make to a diverse society. You are important for the person you are.
2. Remember that there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Be careful not to portray a pompous or cocky attitude.
3. A lot of the time, peer pressure is to blame for lack of confidence. Some peer pressure is good, but never give in if you feel it's wrong. Trust yourself.
4. Never let negative people,those who point out the smallest flaws in you with intention to hurt you, tell you anything. Most people do this when they think that you are better than they are.
5. Don't expect these steps to work overnight. Confidence must gradually be developed by a pattern of positive thinking and action; it can't be faked.

HOW TO DRESS LIKE A MODEL (for Men)

You've realised you can look hot, but aren't sure how to make the most of it? Okay gentlemen, it's time to look hotter than the others- read on:

• Steps

1. Grab a mirror and take this article with you, we're going to take a closer look at you.
2. Examine your face: Your face needs to be cleanly shaved, unless you've been told that a little bit of facial hair is cute on you (but only a little).
3. How do your eyebrows look? Strays need to be trimmed away with a faint arch shape (no tadpoles shapes please).
4. Look at your facial shape. Pick a hair style that complements it. If you have a squarish jaw or round face then a soft layered cut is best. Whatever you choose it has to be a striking but natural colour on you, shiny (dyed) and no longer than jaw length. (this looks more model-like). *Side burns look better on rounder faces as they look slimming
5. EXPERIMENT

• Tips

Body: do you have long legs or short legs?

= If short then you can wear shirts loosely tucked in with tight dark pants or jeans and a darker coloured belt. Pinstripes and patterns both top and bottom work well too.Choose dark shoes that are shiny and tapered toward the toe, to visually lengthen.

If long then you can have long coats, untucked shirts,long scarves that hit thigh length and skin tight t-shirts.

Are you skinny or muscular?

= If skinny then you can wear horizontal stripes, skinny leg jeans, wide belts, double breasted jackets/coats, and sweaters with stripes at chest and shoulders. Look out for details like epaulettes because they look good on as well(military styles).

= If muscular or overall broad build: You work best in single button coats/jackets. Avoid detail over shoulders and horizontal details.

Colours etc: look at your eye colour, if blue then get shirts that bring out that colour best (grey,blue,black,purple) If green wear bright green sometimes and if brown then wear red. This goes for beanies/hats and scarves as well.

Bling: Not very much, maybe a small chain or string necklace, hidden try not to look too chavvy.

Hats: wear the latest styles, wider brimmed hats on slim faces and shorter brimmed hats on rounder faces. Make sure it fits your head well.

All together now: All clothes should be clean and pressed. No fraying or loose threads. T-shirts,jackets tank tops and jeans need to be close fitting ALWAYS.(its way more flattering) Mix formal with day-wear. A tie worn loose over a T-shirt etc.

Look at second hand stores for blazers and chain stores for the latest fashion shirts and belts if you're on a budget. Wear t-shirt scarves in summer and really long winter scarves in winter.

A singlet with an unbuttoned shirt,and jeans is a common model look.

Fragrance: has to be designer or as good as

Shoes: polished
Hands: trim nails and clean
Lips: moisterised
Makeup:not compulsory (look up Zac Effron for male makeup)

The WALK: shoulders back, chin up and walk proudly, with fingers in loose clench. Have a slight smile on as well ;)

• Warnings

Make a commitment to yourself to look HOT:

If other men insult you, remind yourself that they're not gutsy enough to look their best, but YOU are!

Taking on these tips will make you feel better about yourself when out and about and will attract the right attention.

Flip through GQ magazine or whatever and see what the latest male models are wearing for inspiration and

Remember to get dark denim. because it looks more expensive

Don't hide behind your hair.

Now you look nice dont be stuck up about it girls hate that , and also be down to Earth.