Sex, Love, and Marriage

The years that we had... Tama, walang "forever". You are my greatest inspiration which is why you are also the reason why I can't move on. Now people reading this will realize and say "kaya pala"! :) Mind you, i have tried... There is "Us" and "Love". "Sex"... It ended with "Marriage" but not with me. You know who you are. No need of name dropping. Just want to give you my wishes that you should take care of your family. Maybe you'll be seeing less of me but i think it's for the better:




1. One needs always to remember that the point of marriage is not sex but love.

2. Love, like the air, is often taken for granted. But a happily married couple both know that they need love and are grateful to have it.

3. Sex brings ecstasy and then satisfaction. Love brings grace and then fulfillment.

4. One can enjoy both sex and love, but one cannot pursue both. For the pursuit of sexual ecstasy is self-centered and tends towards isolation, whereas the pursuit of love is other-centered and tends towards communion.

5. Marriage is difficult and requires constant compromise. One cannot share a life without losing autonomy, but what one gains is well worth the loss.

6. The only way to be completely autonomous is to be completely alone.

Soul Searching

Almost 6am. Party is over. People have gone home. And here I am satisfying my self with the natural cold weather (freeziiiiiiing actualy). Thoughts are running in my head, the "what ifs" and "if onlys". Drama much! lolz...

LOVE. Do you know this word well? I guess am an expert.
The happiness it brings, the joy. It makes you whole... And the opposites.

MY REALIZATIONS:

--One can be unhappy by oneself, but to be truly tormented, one must love.

--Love is harder to accept than to give.

--To love is to embrace life. To love fully is to embrace both death and life.

--The secret of happiness is simple: be loving, giving, caring.
Why, then, are so many unhappy?
Because they are afraid.

--Love only yourself, and you are alone.
Love only one other, and the two of you are alone.
Love only your family, and your family is alone.
Love only your nation, and your nation is alone.
There can be no communion, not even with yourself,
except through love of God.

...Happy Holidays everyone! 3 days to go. :)

Most Wanted

Sometimes the things that happen to you in this life, make you a stronger person for tomorrow. You keep me grounded... I so love you all, group huuug! :))

Avoiding TRAFFIC, The Soldier Way

While my friend and I were wandering around the "plaza" in the northernmost part of Luzon (am not allowed to mention the province, to avoid unwanted reactions), I was amazed to see a soldier riding in an improvised "scooter". I will not notice this one, if it's normal (I mean usual).

So what can you say with the pic? Like it actually. Seems low maintenance but still respectable.

50 most popular baby names of the decade (2000-2009)

	Girls' Names	Boys' Names
1	Emma	Aiden
2	Emily	Jacob
3	Madison	Ethan
4	Isabella	Matthew
5	Ava	Nicholas
6	Sophia	Jack
7	Kaitlyn	Joshua
8	Hannah	Michael
9	Hailey	Ryan
10	Olivia	Andrew
11	Sarah	Caden
12	Abigail	Tyler
13	Madeline	Dylan
14	Lily	Jaden
15	Kaylee	Zachary
16	Ella	Connor
17	Riley	Logan
18	Brianna	Caleb
19	Alyssa	Noah
20	Samantha	Alexander
21	Lauren	Jackson
22	Mia	Brayden
23	Alexis	Lucas
24	Chloe	William
25	Ashley	Nathan
26	Grace	Joseph
27	Jessica	Justin
28	Elizabeth	Daniel
29	Taylor	Benjamin
30	Makayla	Christopher
31	Makenzie	James
32	Anna	Gavin
33	Zoe	Evan
34	Kayla	Austin
35	Sydney	Cameron
36	Megan	Brandon
37	Natalie	Mason
38	Kylie	Luke
39	Rachel	Anthony
40	Avery	Christian
41	Katherine	Gabriel
42	Isabel	Owen
43	Victoria	David
44	Morgan	John
45	Kyra	Jonathan
46	Jasmine	Samuel
47	Allison	Sean
48	Savannah	Hunter
49	Julia	Elijah
50	Jordan	Thomas

Life's Ironies

A million questions I asked myself tonight. Not knowing if asking it to thyself is worth answering with every ounce of courage in your heart. Trying to seek truth in wisdom from oneself, yet rejecting acceptance from the sight.

These questions we ask ourselves over time are questions of nonsense justifications. We knew from the start we had answers to those questions that’s why we ask ourselves. The only problem or conflict would simply be accepting our own answers.

Reasons. Why do we keep reasoning when in fact our lapse in judgment got us into frisky situations with numerous damages yet push through with what we were never sure of?

Why do we keep reasoning with ourselves when we know from the start how it would end. That we know we let things happen. That we ask ourselves why it happened when we knew we let it happen. And why do we let things happen? Why do we think we lose control of the situation when in fact we were just lazy to control it?

The pain it brings. We ask why we get hurt when in fact we inflicted it on ourselves. Masochism? I doubt that. We just didn’t care about ourselves enough to actually choose not to get hurt. Not to carry the burden of the situation when we actually threw it on our backs without knowing the weight of it. Why do we actually do these to ourselves?

A million questions I ask myself. I ask myself knowing the answers but not man enough to suck up the pain. Not man enough to accept the answers to my own questions. Where is this going? I know I’m going in circles but I always tell myself I don’t know where this is going. I ask myself why I deserve to get hurt knowing I got hurt because I wasn’t sure of myself. Because I never really gave myself a chance, a chance to let myself grow in ways I knew how.

That missing piece, I’ve always known where to search for it but I never did. Instead, I searched in the wrong places. I searched for what’s missing in me, from somebody else. From other people who knew nothing about me. I searched for that missing part knowing where to look yet not searching from where I had to.

Pain. I actually have no grip in words to describe such emotion. Lies and deceit. Why do we tell ourselves we’re fine when in fact we’re not in any way near fine? Do we really have to lie even to ourselves? Do we really have to do it to ourselves to mask not being able to accept the simple truth that we are not okay? What about the times when people call us names and we get angry? Like for example, when someone calls us superficial and we get angry. Why? Why when in fact we know deep down inside that we really are?

We look at the physical aspect at first and then work our way in when it wasn’t designed that way. And that we cannot accept not even to ourselves? Why do we end up masking who we really are when in fact it’s easier to accept the reality of it.

Complicated? No. things are easy. They’re never complicated. People make it complicated. We keep sulking on the drama when there’s actually nothing to be dramatic of. We simply are addicted to the attention we get from the drama. The fuel that burns our souls in ways we couldn’t explain.

Trust. Truth about trust. Simple. We can’t give trust because we can’t even trust ourselves. Believe it or not. That’s where it starts.

Now tell me. Do these things make us stronger? Or it just makes us try to manipulate our brains into thinking we’re getting stronger when In fact we’re cowards who can’t accept ourselves.

Maybe it just boils down to where to begin accepting ourselves. The real us.

Asian call center attrition high

By Alexander Villafania
INQUIRER.net
First Posted 18:59:00 11/22/2009

Filed Under: Infotech, business process outsourcing (BPO)


MANILA, Philippines – With the growth of contact centers across Asia, particularly in the Philippines, there is a general idea that contact center agents never stay any longer than two years in their job and thus look for other opportunities.

A report by Datacraft showed that Asian contact centers have high attrition rates among other regions with contact center industries.

The study covered 554 respondents from 36 countries. The regions included in the study are Asia, America, Australia and New Zealand, Europe, United Kingdom, and Africa and the Middle East.

While the attrition rate of Asian contact centers is high at 23.3 percent, employers in this region are more expectant of this figure, stating that employment training is of such high quality that employees are more confident to look for better opportunities in other companies.

Datacraft Asia General Manager for Converged Communications and Customer Interactive Solutions Nagi Kasinadhuni told local media that contact center employees know that their industry is still in its growth spurt, thus making them realize that there could be better opportunities from other organizations.

“They are also motivated by higher salaries and that they want to maximize their learning,” Kasinadhuni said.

The Datacraft report showed that operating costs of Asian contact centers for recruitment is just 2.7 percent of their total operating budget while budget for motivational or social events is only 1.6 percent.

Asian contact centers also set aside 62.7 percent of their annual operating budget to salaries, which is still a middle ground compared to salary allocations by contact centers in other regions.

On the other hand, Kasinadhuni said that contact center employers generally accept the high attrition of employees. In fact, they note that their “return-on-investments” on contact center agents is realized in around 24 months, just about the same period when employees start leaving for greener pastures.

Kasinadhuni also noted that agent absenteeism among Asian contact centers is pegged at 12.6 percent, compared to just 21.1 percent for other regions.

Still, the Datacraft study noted that contact center operators are not as worried about attrition rate. Instead, the majority of Asian call center operators are more concerned about customer retention, quality of service, and uniformity of business processes.

Staff retention was a relatively smaller concern for these companies.

Kasinadhuni said companies would want to grow the value of their customers, to generate more revenues from interaction with them, especially as part of their plans to maximize operational budget.

THE QUARTER-LIFE CRISIS

You can call it the "Quarter-life Crisis"...

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.

You start feeling insecure and wonder where you willbe in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones

.What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere but that they are as confused as you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantlyadding things to your list of what is acceptableand what isn't.

One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life.

You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better.

Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person.

One-night-stands and random hook ups start tolook cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.

You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the sametopics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! Sad but true.

We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out...