HOW TO BE CONFIDENT

We are all human and have flaws. Even if your physical appearance, unique personality, or social skills aren't what you wish they were, that doesn't have to stop you from being confident. You are beautiful inside and out so you should love yourself unconditionally. Here's how to believe in yourself.

• Steps

1. Make a list of special talents you have, or things you do that are good; morally or otherwise. Focusing on your attributes helps distract you from those parts of yourself that you think are flawed. It doesn't have to be a specific skill or activity either; it can be an approach or an attitude that you champion through life. Do you always stay calm, cool and collected, even in hurried situations? Are you very patient with people? Do you always see the humorous side of things? Are you always there for your friends?
2. Find your passion. Whether it's baton twirling, martial arts, classic cars, musician, or basket weaving, you will feel confident pursuing that endeavor by recognizing what you enjoy doing the most. More importantly, you'll be enjoying your progress.
3. Choose a role model, whether someone close to you, or someone famous. Think of the qualities that the role model displays, whether physical, emotional, moral, and/or spiritual. Work towards acquiring those.
4. Don't think about yourself too much. Try not to focus negatively on how you come across or how others may perceive you. Instead, focus more on making other people happy, and that will build your confidence as other people start enjoying your company.
5. Accept compliments gracefully. Don't roll your eyes and say, "Yeah, right," or shrug it off. Take it to heart and respond positively ("Thank you" and a smile works well).
6. Know that you have important things to say and do. When you feel strongly about something, speak loudly and clearly and make eye contact with people. Be yourself.
7. Take care of yourself. Eat a healthy diet. Don't abuse your body, don't overload it, and don't deny it any of the things it needs. At the same time, don't obsess. Buying all the moisturizers, creams and conditioners will not bring you closer to who you want to be. Those things are only band-aids and make up. Confidence comes from within. Take the time to reflect on your life and do some emotional maintenance. In order to be confident, you must and i say MUST value yourself and understand that your well-being is important.
8. Work out. Getting enough exercise can boost your confidence amazingly. Not only will it give you more energy throughout the day, but being in good physical shape will make you feel more "worthy" you could say, to talk to others be yourself.
9. Stick up for yourself. If people put you down (and not in a good-natured, joking way), then let them know that their opinion of you is not held by everyone--most of all yourself. This may, at first, be hard to do. But once you stick up for yourself a few times, your confidence builds and you get more adept at it.
10. Celebrate your individuality. If you know you've got something special or different, then embrace it; don't hide it! That's diversity! You may wish that you were taller, or shorter, skinnier, stronger, whatever the case may be. But you need to realize that, if you were like everyone else, then you wouldn't be who you are. "What am I?" you ask; the answer's easy: You're a unique individual who is capable of growing and learning.
11. Take action. It is surprising how powerful the simple step of taking an action can be. And the action you take need not be something extravagant or grand. It could be something as simple as tackling a task that you have been procrastinating, such as writing a letter or tidying up that corner of the garage that has been out of control for the last several months. It could also be something as interesting as taking a class in yoga, art, interior design, anything that interests you that you haven't done yet. Whether large or small, action brings with it exhilaration, enthusiasm, and the confidence that other things can be done as well.
12. You'll need to work on your posture. Don't slouch or slump your shoulders, nothing says "I lack confidence" more than a person who appears like they're trying to hide from the world. Make sure that your back is straight, your shoulders are square, and your chest is puffed out slightly (but stay loose, otherwise you'll appear stiff and uptight). Keep your chin up and your eyes forward rather than looking at the ground.
13. Make a conscious effort to smile often. A smile makes you appear warm, honest, friendly, and confident. You can also just relax your facial muscles entirely, which will make you appear calm and relaxed. Observe yourself in a mirror to make sure that you don't have a tense or nervous facial expression, because if you do others will believe you to be sad, angry, or uncomfortable.
14. When engaging in conversation with others, make eye contact. Gaze into the other person's eyes as you talk to make yourself seem interested, calm, and confident. Avoiding eye contact makes you appear shy and submissive, while directly staring for too long may make you appear angry or scared. So the best advice is to gaze into a person's eyes as you converse with them while occasionally shifting your gaze or looking around.
15. Shaking hands can increase your confidence . When it comes to gesturing with your hands, keeping your hands far apart and your palms open makes you appear open and honest. Pointing with your fingers and bringing your hands closer together can draw emphasis to what you are saying. Don't overuse hand gestures or you'll look nervous and unstable. Avoid wringing your hands or touching your sleeves, as these things can make you appear nervous, tense, or even dishonest. *If you're a man, have a firm handshake when shaking another man's hand. If you're shaking a woman's hand, don't grasp her hand any harder than she grasps yours.
16. Put a little strut or swagger into your walk. Move like you have a purpose, and keep your knees slightly bent to avoid appearing stiff and rigid.
17. Act confident, even if you don't truly feel it. After a while, it will come naturally, and you will feel confident in yourself! Also, learn to not care what other's think of you. If you let what people say to you bring you down, you will never be happy. Only care about how you feel about yourself, and don't always take what people say at face value, because they may be jealous of you and are intending to put you down. Don't let them stop your progress, but stand up for yourself while acting calmly!

• Tips

1. Don't compare yourself with other people. It is a wasteful pursuit, and you could be doing something better with your time and energy. Know what you, personally, want and expect from yourself, and focus on attaining those things. The things that you want and expect from yourself don't have anything to do with how you measure up to others.
2. Consider attending leadership classes. Learn to take control of things. If you are in school, then consider running for a social position, such as a president of a club. The ability to lead others and respond to others' behavior under your leadership will help to bring you self confidence.
3. Listen to your inner monologue—your inner voice. In situations where you believe you lack confidence, realize that your inner voice is telling you negative things. You need to retrain that inner voice to be positive in those situations. If you need help, find someone who can help you do that.
4. Speak positively at all times. When you hear yourself saying something negative about yourself, instantly replace it with a positive comment.
5. You have to reprogram your subconscious by repeatedly telling it how confident you are; it will believe you in time.
6. Walk 20% faster than your normal pace, stand and walk with your spine straight and hold your chin high. This physical posture will force you to think positive and be confident.
7. Only think good things about yourself, make sure you only focus on the positive things about yourself. It's really important that you don't let other people say things to you to get you down, remember everyone is different and just be happy to be you, everyone is beautiful

• Warnings

1. Don't put yourself down. Everyone is different and has a valuable contribution to make to a diverse society. You are important for the person you are.
2. Remember that there is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Be careful not to portray a pompous or cocky attitude.
3. A lot of the time, peer pressure is to blame for lack of confidence. Some peer pressure is good, but never give in if you feel it's wrong. Trust yourself.
4. Never let negative people,those who point out the smallest flaws in you with intention to hurt you, tell you anything. Most people do this when they think that you are better than they are.
5. Don't expect these steps to work overnight. Confidence must gradually be developed by a pattern of positive thinking and action; it can't be faked.

HOW TO DRESS LIKE A MODEL (for Men)

You've realised you can look hot, but aren't sure how to make the most of it? Okay gentlemen, it's time to look hotter than the others- read on:

• Steps

1. Grab a mirror and take this article with you, we're going to take a closer look at you.
2. Examine your face: Your face needs to be cleanly shaved, unless you've been told that a little bit of facial hair is cute on you (but only a little).
3. How do your eyebrows look? Strays need to be trimmed away with a faint arch shape (no tadpoles shapes please).
4. Look at your facial shape. Pick a hair style that complements it. If you have a squarish jaw or round face then a soft layered cut is best. Whatever you choose it has to be a striking but natural colour on you, shiny (dyed) and no longer than jaw length. (this looks more model-like). *Side burns look better on rounder faces as they look slimming
5. EXPERIMENT

• Tips

Body: do you have long legs or short legs?

= If short then you can wear shirts loosely tucked in with tight dark pants or jeans and a darker coloured belt. Pinstripes and patterns both top and bottom work well too.Choose dark shoes that are shiny and tapered toward the toe, to visually lengthen.

If long then you can have long coats, untucked shirts,long scarves that hit thigh length and skin tight t-shirts.

Are you skinny or muscular?

= If skinny then you can wear horizontal stripes, skinny leg jeans, wide belts, double breasted jackets/coats, and sweaters with stripes at chest and shoulders. Look out for details like epaulettes because they look good on as well(military styles).

= If muscular or overall broad build: You work best in single button coats/jackets. Avoid detail over shoulders and horizontal details.

Colours etc: look at your eye colour, if blue then get shirts that bring out that colour best (grey,blue,black,purple) If green wear bright green sometimes and if brown then wear red. This goes for beanies/hats and scarves as well.

Bling: Not very much, maybe a small chain or string necklace, hidden try not to look too chavvy.

Hats: wear the latest styles, wider brimmed hats on slim faces and shorter brimmed hats on rounder faces. Make sure it fits your head well.

All together now: All clothes should be clean and pressed. No fraying or loose threads. T-shirts,jackets tank tops and jeans need to be close fitting ALWAYS.(its way more flattering) Mix formal with day-wear. A tie worn loose over a T-shirt etc.

Look at second hand stores for blazers and chain stores for the latest fashion shirts and belts if you're on a budget. Wear t-shirt scarves in summer and really long winter scarves in winter.

A singlet with an unbuttoned shirt,and jeans is a common model look.

Fragrance: has to be designer or as good as

Shoes: polished
Hands: trim nails and clean
Lips: moisterised
Makeup:not compulsory (look up Zac Effron for male makeup)

The WALK: shoulders back, chin up and walk proudly, with fingers in loose clench. Have a slight smile on as well ;)

• Warnings

Make a commitment to yourself to look HOT:

If other men insult you, remind yourself that they're not gutsy enough to look their best, but YOU are!

Taking on these tips will make you feel better about yourself when out and about and will attract the right attention.

Flip through GQ magazine or whatever and see what the latest male models are wearing for inspiration and

Remember to get dark denim. because it looks more expensive

Don't hide behind your hair.

Now you look nice dont be stuck up about it girls hate that , and also be down to Earth.

HOW TO BE A SUPER HOT DUDE!

Stereotypically men are supposed to think less about their physical appearance than women. Such is not the case in reality. If you are a guy who wishes he looked hotter, read on. The following are great steps to get you looking hot and acting hotter.

• Steps

1. Get plenty of sleep. Good-looking people sleep a lot! Go to bed early and wake up early (Teens should get 9.25 hours of sleep according to the National Sleep Foundation). If you get up at 7 AM, go to bed at 10:00 pm every night, even on weekends. You want to set your clock so that you can fall asleep and wake up great.


2. Eat healthy foods and avoid fast foods. Including salmon and foods that contain Omega 3s will also improve the look of your skin. Water will help flush toxins and should replace soft drinks. Watch your caloric intake to prevent pudge and increase your protein intake to help you build muscle.


3. Exercise for about 30 minutes when you wake up. Make sure that you sweat! Exercise will bring a healthy glow to your face and help your skin look its best by increasing your blood circulation.


4. See a professional trainer and begin a work out program at your gym several times a week. Monitor your progress with regular weighing and measurements.


5. Take a shower and wash yourself well. Use antibacterial shower gels and wear deodorant if you tend to sweat a great deal. Condition your hair and apply a body spray or cologne.


6. Visit a dentist for a good cleaning, teeth whitening and discuss the removable braces or veneers. Remember to go back every 6 months.


7. Visit a dentist for a good cleaning, teeth whitening and discuss the removable braces or veneers. Remember to go back every 6 months.


8. Work on your tan. A tan gives the appearance of being thinner and healthier. Use self-tanning products for a sun free tan. Exfoliate well before applying a self tanner. Apply as directed. While you are self-tanning, avoid exercising and exfoliating your skin, so use a cleanser without AHAs that will not get rid of your sunless tan. Try different formulas and strengths to find one that works for you without turning your skin orange. Spray on tanning is also available at salons.


9. Style your hair in a current style that suits your look. Pay for a professional hair stylist and not a barber. Have high or low lights added as necessary. Use styling products and maintain your hair with regular salon appointments.


10. Consider waxing to remove unwanted hair. If you have long hair on your back you might consider waxing or laser removal for a long term removal. If you have very hairy legs and armpits, thin them with regular trimmings. Complete shaves will require constant maintenance to avoid stubble and unpleasant regrowth. Trim your armpits and bikini zones so you have a lot less hair! "Manscaping" has become a normal and expected part of the male grooming ritual.


11. Dress stylishly and well in good fitting and quality clothing. Even if you are not naturally good looking dressing well can do wonder for your attractiveness. Add a few stylish pieces into your wardrobe as often as you can. Stop wearing poorly fitted clothes and scuffed or athletic shoes. Abercrombie & Fitch & Polo Ralph Lauren are all good choices but can be expensive. Chose clothing that will make you look good with the fit and style. Create your own style by combining pieces.


12. Work on your attitude! Hot guys aren't timid and shy. Don't be obnoxious but don't be afraid to have a conversation with people, including strangers. The hottest guys are also pleasant, polite and friendly. Don't try to lift yourself up by putting people down. Be generous and honest with your compliments to people. You can always find something nice to say. Being nice makes it easier for people to be around you and befriend you. Don't pretend to be smarter or cooler than you are. Try to be a gentlemen. Hot only gets you so far if you're a jerk.


13. Appearing too eager can knock your hotness down a few notches. Don't play too hard to get but don't chase women either. Let them drop hints that they are available before you suggest getting together then don't rush to call immediately. Appear otherwise engaged with other interest and not girl crazy. Most importantly, save something about yourself for that first, second or third date. Women like a little mystery, and there is nothing worse than that awkward silence when you realize you've run out of things to say.

• Tips

1. If you have bad knees, use the elliptical machine because it exercises without the resistance that can damage your knees.


2. If you are not a very good shopper, get a friend, wife, girlfriend or even your mom (if she has any taste) to help you pick out good stuff. Asking a female friend to help you pick clothing is a great way to meet people too.


3. Have good personal hygiene and groom yourself. Don't bite your nails. Keep them clean cut if not clean.


4. Eat plenty of fruit, vegetables, legumes, fish and lean meats. Cut out fast foods, foods with sugar and processed foods.


5. Start reading men's fashion and fitness magazines. Look for inspiration and stay on top of current trends. Once you get into the habit you'll be able to shop for styles and put outfits together without help.


6. Know the difference between the classic and stylish looks and the super trendy. You'll be far better off style-wise by knowing the difference. Find a super fashionable guy working at a department store and ask for suggestions. Don't go in at a super busy time.


7. Gay guy friends are great to shop with. They can be brutally honest and can often offer male fashion advise that women cannot.

• Warnings

1. If you want to wax your "bikini" area you can find professionals who specialize in waxing men. Call your local day spas and salons. Shave if possible.


2. Don't wear clothes that plaster too much brand name, you want to draw attention to you, not your clothes. Don't be a billboard.

ARE YOU REALLY HAPPY?

It seems to me that happiness is the most important thing for this short life. Don't waste your life. Ask yourself “What do I want from life?” The answer almost always is "I want to be happy.” As you analyse your life you will find you have many reasons to be happy. Count your family, your looks (hehehe), your actually being alive. Decide to be Happy.


Here are some ways to be happy:

Step 1
Don't start big with meditation or trying to find your identity. Start with basics. Go to sleep at a decent hour. And don't get overly hungry. These two things have a big impact on happiness.

Step 2
As we know feelings follow actions. Act happy. Walk like you would if you were happy. Smile like you would if you were happy. Actually, try to feel like you are more happy. You will find yourself feeling happier.

Step 3
Give anger time to diminish. Having and showing anger related to any annoyances increases your feelings. If you wait, anger often diminishes. Don't start by acting out anger.

Step 4
Feelings often follow actions. Deliberately act happy. You will find yourself feeling happier. If you are angry. Do something or think happy thoughts for those you are angry with or if religious say a prayer for them. Your thoughts and feelings will relax. This is very effective.

Step 5
Realize that doing anything is a positive step. Your brain is stimulated by anything new, and dealing with an unexpected situation gives you satisfaction. If you do new things ie. learn a game, travel, or just go somewhere you will be happier than people who stick to the familiar regular old activities that they already do. Even cleaning out a closet or garage will help.

Step 6
Don’t expect perfection. Stop the need to impress the people around you. Realize no one is perfect.

Step 7
Schedule your own time. Take at least an one hour each day when you can truly relax and enjoy yourself. Exercise, do a hobby, walk, read, meditate or pray. Pamper yourself. This renews your energy and focus.

Step 7
Schedule your own time. Take at least an one hour each day when you can truly relax and enjoy yourself. Exercise, do a hobby, walk, read, meditate or pray. Pamper yourself. This renews your energy and focus.

Step 9
Try not to be alone. Go out with friends or family. Talk on the phone regularly. Go to a movie, or shopping or do things you always loved but have not had the time to do. Call friends and watch a funny movie together. Try to Be grateful for people around you. Look for small favours and blessings and acknowledge them.

Step 10
Help Others. It has been proven that helping others gives you satasfaction and happiness. Make someone’s else's life more happy by contributing in your own small way. Also Re-assess your priorities. Spend time with your family and pray if you are religious. Stay in the present. You are ok now, don't borrow troubles. Do not waste time regretting your past or worrying about the future.


Try to laugh each and every day. Smile for no reason. Focus on things that keep you happy. Tune out or forget your worries, everybody in this world, has problems. It all depends on the way you look at life. What you focus on is what you get.

SO WHO SAID IT WAS EASY?

So who said it was easy to keep old flames burning?
Even experts could use a little divine help now and then.
The easy part is to go out and be brilliant as Shakespeare.
Harder--much harder--to be the light dancing in someone else's eyes.
Lights such as love require more faith than fuel.
Of all leaps, the most dangerous is into the mind of your lover.
Regarding miracles: What is less explicable than
Remaining in love through the long icy anguish of anger?
All lovers long for freedom only slightly less than they fear it.
In the end, love burns not desire but fear.
Not one of us would be capable of keeping the fire burning
Except for the knowledge that it is the sweetest, best, and most
beautiful thing in our lives.